fight for your dream [a tribute to MLK]

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Today is the day that we celebrate the man who changed history forever. Martin Luther King, Jr. saw injustice in the world and decided that he would not stay silent. He stood up for his people, his country, and for his God. He gave up his comfortability and convenience for the challenge of leading others. He understood that a better future could be achieved and made it his goal to see it happen. He did not let fear stop him because he knew that “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control” (2 Timothy 1:7). He was a man of honor, courage, and faith.

“I come to say to you this afternoon, however difficult the moment, however frustrating the hour, it will not be long… How long? Not long, because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” – MLK’s ‘Our…

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The Positive Nigerian.


It´s fascinating how in the quest for answers, which is one amongst the list of many important things that make up the collection “life”, one finds himself with other questions. This is a trick of life that we have come to know. Humanity knows that knowledge along with other simple things as peace, love and belief, is something that makes life easy and worthwhile, the thing of beauty and intrigue that it is. “The mere fact that man continually and diligently seeks more knowledge and pursues further research is a confession that there is so much we yet need to learn”. Continue reading


Image courtesy of Enitan Doherty-Mason

Image courtesy of Enitan Doherty-Mason

Constructive debates within social circles about what’s affecting the entire nation are rare in this country. Everything turns into an argument or a platform to rain insults or an avenue to start pointing fingers. Unbiased criticism is not available. Everything has to be partisan.

If we can’t look past our differences to bring out a common solution to our problems while respecting every opinion and view, we are bound to fail. If we can’t come to terms within ourselves, we have no right to expect any functionality of our government. We are as broken as they are.

Change starts within before it can be spread to society in general. Discipline can’t be taught to another without allowing it to reflect from us. We can’t expect the good while associating with the bad. Change is not something that happens, its something you invite.

Dear Nigerians, let’s GET INVOLVED in the positive process of salvaging our nation.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


Kindness is an act or the state of being kind, being marked by good and charitable behaviour, pleasant disposition and concern for others. It is known as a virtue and recognised as a value in many cultures and religions. Research has shown that acts of kindness does not only benefit receivers of the kind act, but also the giver, as a result of the release of neurotransmitters responsible for feeling of contentment and relaxation when such acts are committed- (Wikipedia).

In Islam, there are many Surahs of Allah’s kindness to mankind. The Prophet (SAW) also enjoined all Muslims to be kind towards all of Allah’s creation. These are contained in Hadiths and they touch every aspect of human activity.

It is also of immense value to note that Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was a pure manifestation of kindness and compassion. He was the perfect example of kindness and compassion. He showed kindness to all he came across, Muslims and non-Muslims, and treated everyone with the same degree of kindness. His acts of kindness not only encompassed human beings but he was also kind and compassionate to animals as well. He was compassionate to children and considered them a gift from Allah (SWT). He would offer the first date of the season to the youngest child and would say this would bring barakat to the dates.

As Muslims, we are enjoined to always follow the teachings and Sunnah of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW). We are also enjoined to extend kindness towards ourselves and the creatures of Allah (SWT). This is the greatest goal of Islam. It is this goal that determines the position of one before Allah (SWT) in this world and the hereafter. It is also what determines the position of man among his fellow human beings.

Kindness to oneself and other creatures
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said, “Allah (SWT) has ordained kindness on everything. When you kill (an animal), kill (it) kindly and when you slaughter (an animal), slaughter (it) kindly. Let anyone of you sharpen his knife and let him give rest to his slaughtered animal.”

The Prophet’s statement has two significant meanings. On the first part, it gives us the clear understanding that on everything created by Allah (SWT), kindness has been ordained. This shows that kindness has been ordained on mankind and therefore, each individual is to be kind to oneself and all mankind. The first step of being kind to oneself is to accept and acknowledge that there is no god except Allah (SWT) and to ascribe no partner to Him (this is the greatest kindness to oneself). Then, we must strive to obey His commands and distance ourselves from sin and things that are forbidden for He says, in Qur’an 6:120, “Leave (O mankind, all kinds of) sin, open and secret. Verily, those who commit sin will get due recompense for that which they used to commit.” Also, to be kind to ourselves, we must strive to perform our obligatory acts in the perfect form.

On the second part, the statement clearly tells us how to act with regards to the creatures of Allah (SWT). The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) instructs that kindness be shown to animals when we kill or slaughter them. They are not to be treated unjustly or harshly.

Kindness to spouses
We are also enjoined to be kind to our spouses. Allah (SWT) has tasked us to be kind to them. He says, in Qur’an 30:21, “And among His signs is this, that He has created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. Also, in Qur’an 4:19, He says, “O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.”

A Hadith also goes to say, “The most perfect of the believers is the best of you in character, and the best of you are those among you who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi)

Kindness to parents, relatives, neighbours, orphans and the less privileged.
Allah (SWT) ordains that kindness be shown to our parents, relatives, neighbours, the poor, orphans, the weak and the distressed. Being kind to them entails being generous to them and refrain from harming them in any way through our actions or words. The most comprehensive verse on kindness in the Qur’an is An- Nisa 36. Allah (SWT) says, “Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship and do good to parents, kinfolk (relatives), orphans, Al- Masakin (the poor), the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) who your right hands possess. Verily, Allah does not like such as are proud and boastful.”

Also, the Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was strictly against vows of silence among relatives and said, “He who remains sour of his relative for a period longer than three nights and three days will not enter heaven.”

Kindness is so broad it exists in many forms. These forms usually take very little of our time and effort to accomplish.

People often mistake or take kindness to mean giving out charity. Yes, charity is a form of kindness but it does not encompass kindness as a whole. There are other forms of kindness. These other forms and great acts of kindness to people include amongst many:
1. Treating people according to the teachings of Islam.
2. Being faithful and honest in our relationships and association with others.
3. Respecting and being patient with others.
4. Giving a helping hand to the weak and old.
5. Saying kind words to people and treating them in ways which we would also like to be treated.
6. A smile is also kindness. It is generally believed by many that a smile is the universal language of kindness. Its takes practically the tiniest effort to give yet it creates a tremendous effect on those it is given to.
7. Spreading the message of Allah (SWT) and the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) is also an act of kindness.

The virtues and benefits of kindness are too numerous to mention but it can be said that one of the main and best benefit of being kind is the feeling of contentment one experience when an act of kindness is carried out. The sense of fulfilment, accomplishment, joy, happiness and relaxation that comes with carrying out a kind act is overwhelming.

Other great virtues of kindness are illustrated in the Hadith. Some of the Hadiths are:

“Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people” (Muslim and Bukhari)

“Those who are kind and considerate to Allah’s creatures, Allah bestows His kindness and affection on them. Show kindness to the creatures on the earth so that Allah may be kind to you.” (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

Narrated Aisha (R.A): “Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, “O Aisha! Allah loves that; one should be kind and lenient in all matters.” (Sahih Bukhari)

“Allah is kind and likes kindness in all things” (Bukhari 6601)

“He who does not thank people does not thank Allah.” (Tirmidhi)

The virtue of kindness is also shown in the Holy Qur’an, 42:43, which says, “And verily, whoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly be from the things recommended by Allah.”
Also, in Qur’an 31:17-19, Allah (SWT) says, “O my son! AqimisSalat (perform Salat), enjoin (people) for AlMaroof (Islamic monotheism and all that is good), and forbid (people) from AlMunkar (i.e. disbelief in the Oneness of Allah, polytheism of all kinds and all that is evil and bad), and bear with patience whatever befall you. Verily! These are some of the important commandments ordered by Allah with no exemption. And turn not your face away from men with pride, nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah likes not each arrogant boaster. And be moderate (or show no insolence) in your walking, and lower your voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying) of the ass.”

The benefit of kindness is also shown in Qur’an 2:195 which says, “And do good. Truly, Allah loves the good-doers.” Qur’an 5:8 also says, “O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah as just witnesses; and let not the enmity and hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: that is nearer to piety.”

With all these virtues and benefits of kindness, wouldn’t it be better for us if we go out of our way to perform an act of kindness for the sake of Allah (SWT)?

May Allah continue to protect us and make us amongst those that are kind. May He make us amongst those that will benefit from His kindness, compassion and mercy. Ameen.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


The Hijab is a practice in Islam that has been subject to a lot of criticism from western media and advocates of women rights. It is viewed by many(usually non-muslims) as a practice that is designed to restrict the freedom of women in Islam. Some countries, for instance France, have gone to extents of passing laws that prohibits or make it illegal to wear the Hijab in public places. These laws are clearly an infringement on the basic right to freedom of religion that each human being is entitled to. What really needs to be understood is that, every religion has its practices and they are followed because they hold a certain significance to the followers of that religion. The Hijab is a practice in Islam that clearly needs to be understood by all.

The Hijab, as defined by wikipedia, “is a veil that covers the head and chest, which is particularly worn by a Muslim female beyond the age of puberty in the presence of adult males. It can further refer to any head, face or body covering worn by Muslim women that conforms to a certain standard of MODESTY. It not only refers to the physical body covering, but alo embodies a metaphysical dimension, where Al-Hijab refers to ‘the veil which separates man or the world from God’. Hijab can also be used to refer to the seclusion of women from men in the public sphere. Most often, it is worn by Muslim women as a symbol of MODESTY, PRIVACY and MORALITY.”

By definition, modesty is the state or quality of being modest. It is a state in which there is a lack of vanity or there is a regard for decency of behaviour, speech, dress etc. Modesty can be translated as simplicity. Going by its definition, modesty thus, is a virtue or state that is to be sought by every human being. It is a state that is accepted and believed, by any rational being, to be a vital ingredient necessary for the growth and development of any sound and moral society.

Modesty in Islam concerns both men’s and women’s gaze, gait, garments and genitalia. The Holy Qur’an, Sura 24: 30-31, says,
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze(from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts(from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah(SWT) is All-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze(from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts(from illegal sexual acts) and not to show of their adornment except that which is apparent(like palms, eyes etc) and to draw their veils over their bosoms and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands fathers, their sons, their husbands sons, their brothers or their brothers sons, or their sisters sons, or their women, or the (female) slaves whom their right hand possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And O ye believers, turn ye all together towards Allah(SWT), that ye may attain bliss.”
The Hijab therefore is for both men and women but for each, a direction or how to wear the Hijab has been given. It is a symbol of modesty for all and a way of attaining bliss and the pleasure of Allah(SWT).

The Hijab as a symbol of modesty, is therefore something to be applauded, encouraged, embraced and also something to be proud of. It should not be viewed as archaic or as a bondage or restriction to the freedom of any individual(as is the case with western cultures with regards to Muslim women). As Muslims, we embrace the Hijab with pride, honour and strive to continue upholding it as a symbol of MODESTY, PRIVACY and as a KEY to preserving the MORALITY in our society.

May Allah(SWT) continue to guide us, give us strength to stand up for truth, forgive our shortcomings and make us steadfast in seeking His pleasure. May He grant us His mercy and make Jannah our final Abode. Ameen.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


We are taught to love and we learn to trust but no one will ever be able to point at the ones that will disappoint us. That’s life. But the tragedies and disappointments of life are not reasons why we shouldn’t allow ourselves to enjoy its beauty even if for a while and no matter how little. Because without one, there isn’t the other.

A coin has two sides for a reason and you can only get one outcome when it is tossed. Still, it is a coin and the outcome could change at the next toss. Nothing is guaranteed except change. So worry not for the next moment might be blissful.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


I have constantly wondered why most of my thoughts and writings revolve around LOVE or ends up to be a call to it. Maybe I am taken in by the various forms in which it exists or the very fact that it is something so broad you can never really exhaust it. But the basic fact I know and can defend anytime is, “Love is the very reason behind the creation of mankind and with it, nothing is impossible”. It is a power beyond imagination and the key to attributes that gives life its meaning- patience, joy, happiness, sacrifice, kindness etc.

It is what truly determines how every individual’s life turn out to be on a daily basis. Its what determines how successful we can become. Without love, humanity would have no purpose. I mean, its a love for something that brings about the concept of work in the first place. We work to satisfy our basic needs and this arises from the very fact that we love ourselves and wish for no harm to befall us no matter how little. We ‘care’ and care arises only out of love.

Examining carefully and thinking thoroughly about love will reveal to us that anything in life that has no root in love is just a distraction and illusion. Its just something that is clearly not worth seeking and something that time should not be wasted upon. Wise minds will attest to this. No event worth remembering is ever without love, no great story told is ever without love & no great person exists on the surface of the earth or in history books without an act of love attributed to his cause. With that said, I ask, why do anything if its not an act of love?

Accept this as a gift of rose from me to you.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


The world no doubt has lost its morality. The things that are simple and easy have now become complicated and hard. Values, respect and morality have become a thing of the past. What was once viewed, acknowledged and believed to be right has been thrown away. The strength and guts to tell things as they are has vanished and no one seems to be able to stand by what is right. Friends are now afraid to tell you things as they are. They are scared to tell you the truth about yourself, the world around you, and what they truly feel. Sound unbiased advice is hard to come by. Everyone seems to be comfortable with the position things are because they are afraid that when they actually say what needs to be said, they risk losing that comfort. But what comfort is greater than living with a clear conscience? What comfort is there in knowing you haven’t done what is right?
Everything that happens in the world has a direct or indirect effect on every individual. A decision taken miles away can affect an individual who has no knowledge of such decision. Action taken years back can have a lasting effect on generations to come. Have we as humans performed the duty of preserving humanity? Have we taken decisions and actions that were designed to protect our sanity? Have we preserved what is important? The answer to these questions clearly point to the negative. We have not.
Who is to blame for the decay in morality? Who is to blame for the situation we find ourselves in? All around the world, there is chaos, injustice, corruption, suffering and war. Are these our fate? Was man created to inherit all these? Clearly not but they are now the norms everywhere. So who is to blame?
“Evil only prevails when good men stand back and do nothing”. I know that the fight against evil is not a simple one but the truth is in the presence of light, darkness disappears into the shadows. It hides behind the image the light falls upon. That said, the fault is entirely ours. Yes, ours. Each and every individual in the world is responsible for the way things are. Each of us share the blame in actions we took, in actions we didn’t, in words we said, in words we didn’t, in decisions we made, in decisions we didn’t make. We all are responsible for the way things have turned out to be.
We constantly talk about forgetting the past for it is gone and focus on the future that is to come, a future we have no idea how it will be. But how can we focus on the future forgetting the past? The past is gone, yes, but the actions and decisions of it are there to make us learn, to make us know the ways in which things should be done and ways in which they shouldn’t. Forgetting the past entails leaving behind valuable lessons, assets, and a great deal of knowledge. The past is as important as the future we look forward to. If we forget the lessons and teachings of history (the past), how are we to change things for the better? How are we to correct our wrongs? How are we to ensure that others don’t fall into the same mistakes that we had fallen into? We are thus left with repeating the same mistakes over and over again until it eventually becomes a habit. Do we wish to be excellent in chaos, injustice, and corruption? Or do we wish to be excellent in peace, justice, fairness, and love?
The simple and good things in life have always and will always be free- Kindness, love, respect, morals, happiness, joy etc. Why not protect and invite these unto ourselves to salvage what is left of our humanity? Why not protect the innocence of young minds from the evils that is within us? Why not make the world a better place?
I plead with the world, let us work towards making this place the heaven that it was created to be. Stop the violence, stop the injustice, stop the stigmatization and stop the lies.
Let’s start by becoming who we were created to be- Creatures of love. Let’s start by guiding our actions, by loving and becoming fair to ourselves. There is always a chance to chase the darkness and it’s by becoming the light.

(c) Dhulhulaifa


Friends are lost and others are found.

Dreams are altered while beliefs and strength are tested.

Paths are abandoned or revisited.

Hopes and faith are renewed.

The past is revisited to seek mistakes, reasons, lessons and answers.

The future seems bleak and full of obstacles.

Words flow from lips whose minds are shallow of knowledge about you and how the world works.

Judgmental they become forgetting their place.

Be wary of such for elevation and excellence they know not and wish it not upon you.

So they are deceived, by the greed in them, to stop you as you take the path of change.

Towards becoming you,

Towards becoming great,

Towards becoming changed.